Make your somedays


One of my most favorite quotes is:

“One day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to do the things you’ve always wanted.” Paulo Coelho

My wife and I have talked for years about going to Sonoma or Napa to do the whole wine tasting thing but had never been.  And, we love wine.  Like, really love wine.  We kept talking about it but always kept coming up with reasons (and all good ones) to not go - at least not yet.  As we started talking more seriously about finally making the trip to celebrate our 10th Anniversary, we came up with a laundry list of reasons that it wasn’t the right timing - working on a start-up that requires a lot of time and effort (and doesn’t pay much!:)), kids having just started school, tons of activities going on both for the kids and us, needing to try and figure out childcare for 5 days for a 4, 6 and 8 year old, etc.  

But, since that start-up is an app that helps you make plans to do things with and for those you love the most, I felt like I needed to eat my own dog food.  And, man am I glad we did!  If you haven’t done that trip, I would so highly recommend it - but no more than a couple of wineries a day - especially if you have a rental car!  (A huge shout out to MomMom and PopPop and Mamaw and Papaw for watching the little munchkins so that we could go by the way!)

As happens every time when I take vacation, my worries about what might happen with work while I’m gone were unfounded.  Heck, everything plugged along probably better than when I am there!  And, after a couple of days back, I was all caught up on email, etc.  Nothing fell apart.  But, my wife and I had an amazing time.  And, we made some amazing memories.  

So, here’s a simple thought.  Whether you’ve been wanting to do a wine country trip or something as simple as catch up for dinner and drinks with an old friend, I would encourage you to do this:

  • Think of a “we should”, a “someday” or something off of your “list” (whatever you call it!) that you’ve been thinking about doing and actually get it scheduled.  

  • We’re biased, of course and would encourage you to use the goHappy app to “invite” the appropriate people to that Plan to get it actually scheduled finally.  Start it as a “Someday” Plan and ask everyone for the specific dates that work for them to go do it - soon the app will help with this, too.  But, even if you don’t use the app, just invite them!

  • Include a picture of that thing you want to do when you share the Plan with them.  We’ve seen that when you include a picture, it increases the excitement and likelihood that you actually do the Plan.

  • Once you hear back from folks, get the dates on your calendar (if you’re using the goHappy app, you can convert it from a Someday Plan to the exact dates, and it will synch to your calendar automatically). 

  • Lock it in, do the prep work (buy tickets, etc.) so that everyone is committed!

Take pictures when you’re in the Moment and share them with the folks who were with you (and maybe the people you wrangled to help with child care). When you finally do one of those things you’ve been talking forever about doing, it’s exciting and builds momentum to want to do the next thing on your list.   

So, circling back to the Paulo Coelho quote, my takeaway is this.  

MAKE the time to do the things you’ve always wanted - just start knocking them out one at a time - big, small or somewhere in the middle.  At the end of the day, what’s the worst that can happen?